The theme of my breakfast wedding to Erynell Evangelista last 12.20.12 was borrowed from Dr. John Piper’s book “This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence”. We had our good friend-slash-host Ron open our simple and intimate ceremony with this excerpt from the conclusion:
“Marriage is not mainly about prospering economically; it is mainly about displaying the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church. Knowing Christ is more important than making a living. Treasuring Christ is more important than bearing children. Being united to Christ by faith is a greater source of marital success than perfect sex and double-income prosperity.
If we make secondary things primary, they cease to be secondary and become idolatrous. They have their place. But they are not first, and they are not guaranteed. Life is precarious, and even if it is long by human standards, it is short.
‘What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes’ (James 4:14).
‘Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring’ (Proverbs 27:1).
So it is with marriage. It is a momentary gift. It may last a lifetime, or it may be snatched away on the honeymoon. Either way, it is short. It may have many bright days, or it may be covered with clouds. If we make secondary things primary, we will be embittered at the sorrows we must face. But if we set our face to make of marriage mainly what God designed it to be, no sorrows and no calamities can stand in our way. Every one of them will be, not an obstacle to success, but a way to succeed. The beauty of the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his church shines brightest when nothing but Christ can sustain it.”
I got married with my eyes and my heart wide open to the reality that just as I am not perfect, so is my husband. We got married fully informed of the possibility that our marriage may either be a lifetime of happiness or a lifetime of tragedy. It is up to us how we – with the help of God’s Spirit – will handle anything and everything that God allows to come our way. By God’s infinite grace and merciful love, we are confident that as God has put us together, nothing and no one can put our marriage asunder. 🙂